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The Anchor of the Soul

By Leslie Manning

Hope has two beautiful daughters. Their names are anger and courage; anger at the way things are, and courage to see that they do not remain the way they are.”
— Saint Augustine

“True peace is not merely the absence of tension; it is the presence of justice.”
— Martin Luther King, Jr.

I was born in a state of hope (Rhode Island) and grew up in a state of possibility. I was taught that if I saw an injustice, I was to speak out about it and work to change it. Although I no longer live there, I continue to practice the teachings of my state and my family and to work for justice.

In my work, which is reducing and preventing gun violence and illegal gun trafficking in the U.S., I work with many people who are angry. I, too, am angry, angry about our continued callousness and disregard of the sacred nature of human life; all life, every life; the life of the victim and the life of the shooter; the life of the prisoner and the life of the jailer; the life of the oppressed and the life of the oppressor. “What part,” I ask myself, “of thou shalt not kill, do we not get?”

And yet, anger as a catalyst is not enough. When we work for justice, march for justice, weep and pray for justice, we are engaged in a marathon, not a sprint. We have to have the nourishment to sustain us and the ability to get up every morning and do what needs to be done. As we move out into the world, we need to be sustained by faith and love. No one of us is ever good enough, or strong enough or ready enough to do the work we are called to do. We need the love and mercy of G-d* and the love and support of our community to build G-d’s kindom* here on earth. We need to preach forgiveness, practice reconciliation and ask ourselves how we make ourselves available to G-d, not just ask G-d to be available to us.

It has been my experience when we do that, we are then open to transformation, as individuals and communities and are given what is needed to undertake the work. We become the instruments, the face and the hands of G-d on earth.

One of the things from which I draw the greatest encouragement is the life of Jesus, the carpenter from Nazareth. His life, especially in the period of his public ministry, is an example and a lesson to me constantly. In his words of hope and his acts of healing, I draw strength, comfort and encouragement. I am reminded that with a small group of imperfect people, we can change the world, and redefine our relationship with each other and the Holy.

Perhaps the story that speaks most directly to me, which moves me beyond any other, is told by Luke, the physician and companion of Paul (Luke 22). The story begins on the night before his death, or early that morning, after praying and weeping blood in the garden; after being disappointed by his followers falling asleep and unable to pray with him; after being betrayed by a kiss from the one whom he trusted with his group’s money; and knowing that he was being asked to die for these and others; Jesus is seized and being led to the civil authorities by the servants of the priests. One of Jesus’ impetuous followers (Peter, according to John 18:10) grabs a soldier’s sword and slices the ear of one of the captors.

Does Jesus make a run for it? Does he urge his followers to break into a fight for his freedom? No, he tells his followers to put up the sword and he then heals the ear of his captor. He willingly submits to his trial.

I am inspired by this, and seek to emulate it. But, in this as in so much else, I will fall short. I will need the love and encouragement of my community, my chosen faith, to hold me and to hold me accountable. It is in this embracing and testing of each other that we find the courage and the grace to do what we are called to do. Listen, pray, obey. Test the leading and ask for help. It will be given to you. Have hope, for it is the anchor of the soul.

*Editor’s note: Out of respect for God, the author practices the Jewish custom of not writing the name of God. Jews interpret the law that was given by Moses (Deuteronomy 12) as a prohibition against the transcribing the name of God as the written word could be disrespected or defaced. Writing G-d is incomplete and runs no risk for defacement. The author requests that the word kindom be used instead of kingdom.

Leslie Manning is a member of the Durham Monthly Meeting in Maine, and serves as a representative from New England Yearly Meeting to the FUM General Board. Leslie was born and raised in Rhode Island, whose state motto is “Hope”. This motto served as a refuge of religious tolerance and freedom, welcoming all who chose to live in peace.

An Explosion of Hope

By Randy Quate

In his first message as Pope, Francis I stated that the role for older people in the church is to pass on optimism and hope to younger generations looking for spiritual guidance in a modern world full of temptations. Though Quakers and Catholics may be at very different places in practices and beliefs, the Pope definitely speaks my mind. Recently, while trying to envision a new Friends movement that could reach a new generation, I providentially met a man named Mike Berry.

Mike is the founding pastor of CrossRhythm Church in Annapolis, Maryland. CrossRhythm is an intergenerational church with a high percentage of young adults and a mission to reach a new generation for Christ. He was introduced to me by a mutual friend who understood that Mike and the leadership of this young church identify themselves with the principles of the Quaker faith. This congregation believes that their mission and the testimonies of Quakers are the same, sensing kinship with the history of Quakerism and with the Friends’ message.

In January I made a trip to Annapolis, Maryland, to train the leadership at CrossRhythm Church in Quaker business practice, decision-making and leadership. They later held their first business meeting using these principles. During the silence, this dynamic group experienced a Spirit-filled, gathered meeting and continued worshipping throughout the business meeting. I am overjoyed to see the richness of Quaker history, faith and practice becoming a channel for an energized church to fulfill its mission in a fresh way. North Carolina Yearly Meeting and CrossRhythm Church are presently exploring how their fellowship can become part of NCYM-FUM.

This experience has riveted a divine thought in my mind. The picture of this budding church causes me to believe that the best years of Quakerism are not behind us but before us. There are those who are seeking the inward knowledge of Christ. When this influx of people embrace the way of Friends, the result will probably look a little different from what many Friends in North America are accustomed to. In fact, a new Quaker explosion will probably evoke that fear provoking word: change.

What could Quakerism in America look like in the future? The meeting of the future, in my estimation, is going to birth a new breed of Friends. I believe a new Quaker explosion is on the horizon if certain components emerge in equally strong measure throughout North American Friends fellowships. Some of these components may seem severe in light of where we are now; others will be more subtle but equally as significant. I believe the following ingredients will be present in those Friends meetings where a fresh flame emerges. The future Quaker meeting/church should be:

Passionately Christ-Centered

There was only One who spoke to the condition of George Fox, and it was Christ Jesus. The term “Christ-Centered” must become more than a theological name tag that reveals what “brand” of Quaker we are. Christ-Centered has to become descriptive of the lives we live as a community of faith, collectively and individually. This Christ we center in is the Preexistent Logos, Jesus of Nazareth, the Sacrificial Savior, the Risen Christ, and the Present and Coming King seamlessly woven into One whose presence is in the midst.

Deeply Historical

Our history is rich, but our history must launch us into a present-day movement. I have a friend who says that some Quakers are like a person driving a car with a rearview mirror the size of the windshield. That type of historical bondage enslaves vision and hinders the adaptation needed to be relevant in ministry. However, when history becomes a true catalyst for new vision, it is serving its purpose well. I don’t think there would have been one Quaker in the first generation of our history who would have wanted us to laude their achievements yet lose their fire. Our history as Friends is amazing and exists primarily to stoke the flame of spiritual transformation and cultural illumination by the light of Christ.

Unashamedly Biblical

Early Friends were not busy defending the Bible; instead they were focused on living it. While the author of scripture was the focus, the use of scripture was the means to proclaim that conviction. Scripture has been and still is the most reliable guide for Friends as the Holy Spirit applies its truth to our souls.

Eagerly Applying Friends Testimonies

The future is rich for us, if we are deeply rooted in the Quaker expression of the Christian faith. It will be a movement that will avoid the extremes of generally Wesleyanized evangelicalism and Quakeristic cocooning.

I was once on a task force that hired a consultant to help us look at our declining numbers and increasing conflict. Some in the group were insistent on training the non-Quaker facilitator on Quaker language, like saying “meeting” instead of “church.” It was like we were rearranging a sock drawer while the house was on fire! As we look at ourselves, there should be a sense of urgency to see our future flourish. As a knife collector, I describe a pocketknife that has maximum value as “uncarried, unused and unsharpened.” That will not describe the wave of the future as Friends find new ways to use our history and testimonies to foster an awakening through the Holy Spirit. There will be a deep social consciousness to this fresh wind. Human trafficking and sex slavery are just two areas where grass roots energy is emerging. A New Underground Railroad could be the mark of this new day, and there will be more to come.

Outwardly Focused

The cocooning of Friends in many areas of North America has several causes. One could be that we have many rural Meetings comprised of intertwined families. Such familiarity can cause us to creep into complacency and become inward focused. The tendency of others is to conversationalize Quaker history, so that we talk about the great works of God through our historical lineage, but never endeavor to do something great for God ourselves. The Holy Spirit through a missionary zeal in early Friends, generated the Quaker explosion of the 17th century. I believe a new breed of Quaker will emerge who will not only know and value the Valiant 60 and Mary Fisher’s journey to the Sultan of Turkey, but will journey across the street and begin to introduce neighbors to life with Jesus along the Quaker path, thereby igniting a new explosion.

Tuned Into a Different Generation

Churches across America are being challenged to attract and retain our high schoolers and young adults. The exodus of these young people from the traditional church has been widely noted. Young adults in NCYM love their home meetings, but are drawn increasingly to other non-Friends churches to be with folks their age and to experience more passionate worship and teaching ministries. However, we have noted that many of our young adults in NCYM still orbit Friends by participating in yearly meeting events. Quaker youth and young adults repeatedly speak of going to other denominations and missing the unique worship and ministry of their home meeting. You can take the person out of the meeting, but you can’t take the Quaker out of the person. We are all grateful for the contributions of every generation of Quakers in every Friends meeting. We want to engage Friends of every age into vital, intergenerational fellowships. However, for that to happen, we will have to face the need for some change and we will have to have meaningful conversations across generational lines. A fresh approach to Quakerism will attract the young and speak to their lives in ways that can keep them with us, helping us be a more intergenerational movement for years to come.

I received an email from Len Sweet through a mutual friend. Len is a noted Christian author who has a gifted insight into the state of the church in America. He said, “George Fox and Quakerism will be rediscovered in the 21st century and may be the best answer in presenting Christ to the postmodern mind.” Wow. Maybe it takes a Methodist to tell us what we should already know. To quote John Punshon’s title, there is a “reason for hope”!

Randy Quate is the General Superintendent of North Carolina Yearly Meeting. He is married and has two children.

The Hope of Multiplication

By Jim Le Shana

Recently I spoke in front of a large class of undergraduate students and asked, “How many of you have ever been a part of a church plant?” A few students raised their hands. I responded with a probably over-dramatized but inquisitive look as I probed further. “Hm-m. Well . . . how many of you have ever been a part of a local church?” They all raised their hands, and a few light bulbs turned on as I repeated my first question, “OK . . . so how many of you have ever been a part of a church plant?” This time around, almost all of the students raised their hands. At least some probably thought it was a silly line of questioning, but they got the point. In that moment, these 18 to 22 year-olds realized the simple truth that they already really knew: every church in existence today started out as a church plant.

What’s the significance of remembering that your church began originally as a church plant? Many people like to hold on to traditions in a church setting. In fact, that is the norm for most of us. We like to live in our comfort zones, sit in the same places, talk to the same people and participate in the same sacred rituals — even among traditionally non-traditional Quakers. Maybe that’s the point. Among Friends, we pride ourselves in our non-sacramental and non-creedal ways, and yet we hold as firmly as anyone else to what we think of as our distinctives, convictions and practices that contribute to our self-identity and reputation. Typically, we cling to the traditions that we grew up with: the norms, social practices, ways of conducting corporate worship, appropriate church business methods and a host of other religious priorities and activities — from how we collect (or do not collect) an offering to serving the right kind of coffee (Is it really fair-trade? How do you know? What if it doesn’t taste as good?). However, as many of my pastor friends have confessed, there are times when those traditions serve to slowly kill a congregation. Yet, that doesn’t mean we should jettison the past.

We may need to embrace our heritage even more! As a historian, I contend that the problem for many Friends is not that we embrace history, but that we don’t hold onto it in as tightly or in as informed of a way as we should. If we would take an honest look at how our actual meetings began, remembering the reason why people took the steps and made the sacrifices in the first place, it might just serve as a new kind of motivation to do it again. I would contend that very few Friends churches that persisted began with a self-serving intent. If in fact they did, they probably shifted their focus very soon or they died. Even if a new birth came as the result of an “unwanted ecclesiastical pregnancy” (a church division of some kind), for a new church to survive it takes sacrifice, time, money, energy, prayer, dedication and a lot of hard work. Like a marriage, it is not something to enter into flippantly or unadvisedly. A gathering of believers is a visible testimony to the idea that God did not intend for his children to live alone and in isolation.

The full story provides motivation for the future. When people in an existing church can learn and remember the whole story — that someone(s) probably gave sacrificially, prayed fervently and worked diligently to start their congregation — that provides great encouragement and impetus. It involves getting past the lesser traditions to the deepest kind of heritage, the heartbeat of getting outside of yourself for the sake of others. What a wonderful legacy to own and share! In some ways, it’s a matter of stewardship of the vision and faithfulness to pass on the calling of the founders to every new congregation. This is the best kind of tradition to maintain, and it’s close to the heart of God to reach those who don’t have a relationship with him yet.

Remembering the origins of your church gives hope in another crucial way. In simple terms, if someone had the vision and then followed through to start your church, there is reason to believe that your congregation could turn around and give birth to another new church in the future, regardless of the age, size or context of your congregation. Before you dismiss this notion too quickly, remember that Sarah once laughed pretty hard when told that she would give birth to a child even though she had been ordering off of the senior menu for many years. In response, God made clear his position on the topic by asking rhetorically, “Is anything too hard for the Lord?” (Genesis 18: 12-14) Friends need to be reminded of God-honoring questions like that today. If God was able to help launch your church, despite the obstacles, why do you think that he wouldn’t enable and equip you to start new churches to reach others that he loves?

But isn’t this a bad time to even think about starting new churches?! I have talked with many Friends pastors and denominational leaders across the country in the past couple of years and have observed that there are many things that feel distracting at best and discouraging if not debilitating at worst. Numerous pressures serve to paralyze and fears freeze us from taking action. Churches grapple with very real conflicts, pastoral and leadership changes, financial difficulties, theological/lifestyle issue debates and politicized divisions to name a few. It’s in these times that there can be a tendency to pull back, hold our collective breath and simply try to survive or weather the perceived storm. But, is that really the life that God has called us to live?

This is a hopeful time to move forward! Rather than hiding or devolving into self-absorption and irrelevance, we need to remind ourselves of our central calling and purpose. God once established Friends, including your church, to make a difference in this world for him. Rather than take a defensive “back on our heels” posture or maintenance mentality, this is the time to continue to move forward with a “gates of hell shall not prevail against it” passion. This may be the exact right moment in the ongoing history of Friends to give sacrificially, pray fervently and work diligently to start more new churches for God’s glory and the good of others.

Can you imagine what would happen if God poured out his Spirit in such a way that we experienced a Friends church multiplication movement? Although God hasn’t called Friends to win the whole world to Christ by ourselves, he has entrusted to us a portion of this unfinished task. For many months, a number of leaders have been talking, praying and considering how to help Friends do our part to fulfill the Great Commission, cultivating a renewed passion for evangelism and church planting. Exciting flickers of this fire exist among Friends, around the country and globe, but it is time to begin to bring these sparks together. Plans are well underway to do just that.

A National Friends Church Multiplication Conference is coming. Evangelically-minded Friends from around the country will gather on the campus of Barclay College, May 8-10, 2013, for encouragement, inspiration, information, dreaming and synergistic fellowship. The main speaker is Bruce Redmond, the Director of Church Planting for the Evangelical Free Church of America, Southeast District. Recognizing that it takes all kinds of churches to reach all kinds of people, a number of different methods and approaches will be discussed in a variety of “best practice” workshops and general sessions. Conference organizers anticipate attracting younger as well as older participants. Both undergraduate credit (through Barclay College) and graduate credit (through George Fox Evangelical Seminary and the Friends Center at Azusa Pacific University) are available.

It’s best thought of as a catalyst, not the conclusion. Of course, the real goal of the NFCMC is not simply to have a great conference. It will be an inspiring, informative and encouraging time, but the ultimate objective is to help launch new churches and rekindle a church multiplication movement among evangelically-minded Friends across the country. In many ways, this event is not the finish line of the synergistic undertaking; it is the starting line. Other gatherings are anticipated for the future.

How can someone register for the conference or find out more information? If you have a heart for church planting or want to learn more about it, this first National Friends Church Multiplication Conference is for you. The web page as well as the online registration form can be found at the Barclay College website.

As for my undergraduate friends, it is easy for Christ-followers of any age to forget that every single church was once started by someone (and usually by a number of people), an undertaking involving risks, sacrifices, joys, costs, gains, heartaches and triumphs. May God help us to recapture the hope and faith of our founders, rekindling a passion for others as we build bridges of new churches. May we stay in step with his Spirit as we look to the future, joining him in what he is doing (and desires to do) among us.

Jim Le Shana is the Vice President of Academics and the Director of the Master of Arts in Transformational Leadership program at Barclay College in Haviland, Kansas.

It’s All About You: The Secret To Making Yourself Happier

By William Dillingham

When a crisis comes our way — whether that crisis is within the family, the community or the country; whether it is financial, relational or existential — we can truly discover amazing things about ourselves, our families and our communities; thoughts that we could not have known if the crisis had not happened. Of course, I’m not saying that crises are to be sought out or caused just so that we can grow in self-awareness, but I am saying that such situations often highlight personal characteristics of our walk with God. President Jimmy Carter, in his classically folksy way, once remarked that we are, each of us, like tubes of toothpaste: We find out what’s inside when life applies a little pressure.

Sometimes, unfortunately, the things that we learn about ourselves are not things we want to know, although they can be the things that we very much need to know. One such lesson that many of us have learned is that we often don’t truly empathize with others and often fail to demonstrate love for one other.

Empathy is, in my view, the truest form of the outworking of equality. It is what allows us to become the helping hands and embracing arms of God here on earth. We are all equal — as sinning Saints — in the eyes of God, but God instructs us, in Luke, Romans and Philippians, to treat others better regardless on their actions and our biases than we may want to treat them.

I don’t think that this view on empathy is a surprise to many Friends. There are so many verses in scripture and so many queries that speak to this subject that I cannot possibly hope for originality. Consequently, I would like to broach this topic from a somewhat surprising starting point: 1 Corinthians 8. While, nominally, in this chapter Paul is talking about temple meat, he makes a very powerful statement about how we live our lives in relation to others, both directly and indirectly. in essence, he is saying that our knowledge of certain things, whether they be right or wrong, is of little value if by our actions we lead others astray. Our knowledge of right and wrong, in other words, matters not at all if our actions convey little concern for the place of others in their walk with Christ.

Paul, in still other words, is saying nothing more than the simple truth that love and love alone should guide our actions, not our knowledge of rules or facts or history.

Of course, love is not empathy, but love can serve as the basis for empathy, and empathy can be a fertile ground for love to prosper. This isn’t just clever word play; clinical research has shown that viewing the world from another’s perspective makes it impossible for us to simultaneously maintain anger, contempt or frustration towards that other person. Think about that for a moment: God created in us the psychological condition that as we empathize with another’s condition, as we earnestly and honestly strive to see the world through another’s eyes, we cannot continue to harbor ill feelings towards that person. We cannot dehumanize (to use an extreme verb) someone with whom we feel connected.

The awesomeness of how we are inextricably knitted together allows us to understand another person’s pain. Through empathy, we want to help alleviate it, overcome the cause, fix the situation and make it better not only because we feel sorry for someone in pain, but because that pain has become our pain also. Frustration with a suffering person fades into the background as we become closer to that individual and his or her condition. Our motivation is no longer to frustrate, hurt or to get even with an adversary, but, rather to lighten the burden.

One of Rufus Jones’s favorite verses was Ezekiel 1:8, and of it, he remarked, “The work of God will not be done by angels from the sky, but by men, here, with their hands.” For us, the work we must do is by showing love one to another, thereby glorifying God. Love, in this regard, is self-sacrificial love manifested in works — deeds and words — that build up another. We cannot evince that love without understanding the anger, fear and physical needs of others, particularly our adversaries, and that cannot be done other than by knowing the individual as well as we know ourselves. Without that knowledge, we are simply giving to them what we feel they need, and to the extent that we help, we do so by accident.

Consider further that feelings of frustration and anger towards others — children, co-workers, foreigners, spouses or strangers — don’t just happen, but arise from initial thoughts about them. How much better our lives would be if we trained ourselves to think of the others’ point of view, to empathize, first, and do so with an open heart? I may think to myself, “Why is so-and-so trying to give me a heart attack by being so lazy and willful?” Perhaps I should ask instead, “What pressure and distress must so-and-so be under to miss the deadline, and how have my actions contributed to her distress?” Imagine, moreover, how by simply encouraging our children to see events through the eyes of others, we could help them to avoid unnecessary anger and frustration.

As we, and through our examples, our children, begin to intentionally practice empathy, imagine how much more the kingdom of God would be increased. What can you do today to make empathy a defining characteristic of your life? In the end, and this can’t have been lost on our magnificent creator, we will be happier too.

William Dillingham is a Conservative Quaker who lives in Denver, Colorado. Being the father of two young children gives him unbounded pleasure.

Hope for Friends Theological College

By Robert Wafula

Some people would say that hope is simply wishful thinking; that is, hoping for something to happen without taking any action. I do not think this interpretation of hope is what the Bible implies. The definition I have found in my reading of scripture is, “confident expectation.” Romans 8:24-25 and Hebrews 11:1,7 expound further on this subject. Other sections of the Bible such as Proverbs 23:18 point to hope as a fundamental component of righteous life. It is in hope that we have life and look forward to a better tomorrow. In fact the writers of Lamentations 3:18 and Job 7:6 bluntly point out that life without hope is like a body without a heart. A lifeless body has no anticipation for tomorrow.

Friends Theological College (FTC) has a heart and has quite a bit of hope for tomorrow. It is a ministry that shapes the continuing future of African Quakers. Since its foundation at Lugulu in 1942 and subsequent relocation to Kaimosi eight years later, hundreds of servants of God have gone through its doors to effect change in the world and win a joust for Christ. I am one of many graduates (Class of 1985) who received the grounding to minister and effect change in our world.

The arrival of the 21st century has put FTC at the cusp of yet another profound change ushered in by what I can only describe as an inexorable era of technology. Within these changes, FTC has maintained its call to provide inspirational spiritual service and theological formation to the members of the Religious Society of Friends and others. Despite its success in fostering positive change, like any other institution of higher learning, FTC has had its share of struggles and challenges. These challenges include its relationship with the wider Quaker community, both in East Africa and overseas, and with the lack of sufficient funding to run the academic programs.

Friends United Meeting’s (FUM) General Secretary, Colin Saxton, graciously accepted my invitation to speak at my church (Orange Friends Church) and on February 17, 2013, he gave a presentation on FUM Ministries in Kenya. Our congregation was amazed that FUM consists of 31 yearly meetings and that Kenya is the largest constituency of Friends in the entire world. There is an estimate of 200,000 to 500,000 Friends in Kenya, with 18 yearly meetings, over 2,000 village meetings and over 1,500 Friends schools. There are two major Friends hospitals and subordinate clinics; outpost missions in Samburu and Turkana, and other outreach missions in South Sudan, Uganda, Tanzania, Rwanda, Burundi and the Democratic Republic of Congo (DRC). It was a surprise to many within North American Evangelical Friends that other Quaker organizations such as FUM are engaged in mission work globally.

Giving to FTC by Yearly Meetings

All those institutions and ministries mentioned above look up to FTC as a reservoir of pastoral and spiritual leadership supply. However, the challenge is that not many of the 18 Kenyan yearly meetings are involved in the financial support of the FTC programs. If it is true, as Colin Saxton indicated that Kenyan Friends are the largest Quaker community in the world, then we need to translate our numerical superiority with action. I am a social scientist and arithmetic has never been my area of expertise, but working with the lowest number of 200,000, if each one of these members gave only Ksh. 1.00 per month towards FTC, there will be a total of Ksh. 200,000 ($2,500) per month. Or putting it this way, if each gave only Ksh. 12.00 annually, there would be Ksh. 2,400,000 (equivalent of $30,000). I would call this simple Friends preparatory stewardship, which would then require only lower level capital campaign.

For FTC to be an effective agent for holistic change in the state of the African Christian Church, it must be thoroughly transformed. Transforming the spiritual character, the theological behavior and the intellectual capacity of students is the work of the faculty and the administration. Transforming the infrastructure and other physical facilities, however, is the responsibility of the sponsoring Christian community: the Kenyan Friends. This discussion goads the yearly meeting presiding clerks and all other leaders with a special responsibility to develop and support FTC programs. It is an imperative that we do so with a tremendous sense of pride.

The assistance from North American Friends in financial support, theological personnel and leadership enhances unity in our partnership. We are indeed proud of this kind of partnership and appreciate it from the bottom of our hearts. However, perpetual dependency on Western giving and leadership may create a mind-set within African Friends and may smother their spirit of giving. As a gift-driven institution, FTC is always very grateful for the relationships with the supporting local and overseas Friends. There are FTC graduates serving God all over the world.

Therefore, FTC covets a strong relationship with the yearly meetings. Current students, faculty and alumni should be given a chance to play an active role in every aspect of social and theological life within the entire Quaker community. Every yearly meeting must therefore fully participate in every level of FTC’s development process. Every presiding clerk and the entire leadership should take time to pay a visit to FTC and become familiar with FTC’s condition. Such visits will instill hope and stimulate enthusiasm in the lives of students, administration and the faculty and enhance a stronger connection with the local church. To cultivate a strong relationship and better understanding of the physical need of the college, every yearly meeting should be represented on the Board of Governors. The Executive of the Board of Governors should evaluate yearly meetings’ annual financial contribution to FTC, encourage those who may be committed in their giving and re-energize those whose spirit of giving is dissipating.

Giving to FTC by the Alumni

If a record of FTC graduates were to be published, I imagine it would be a relatively long one. I propose the FTC alumni should develop a trajectory of giving to serve as an example to the flock to which we minister. Here is my proposal:

1. To supplement and renew the energy of the existing Alumni Association, I propose that a list be published and every alumnus be identified (with full contact information).
2. Establish two chapters of the Alumni Association: the Local Chapter and the Overseas Chapter.
3. Each chapter should appoint coordinators.
4. Each member should be encouraged to contribute a minimum amount of money or primarily be responsible to fundraise for his or her required annual contribution to FTC.
5. Each member should look for foundations, corporations and individuals in both local and overseas communities for endowment.
6. Face-to-face and virtual annual meetings and frequent communication between members in both chapters to be maintained.
7. Co-coordinators of both chapters should evaluate the level of alumni giving and develop further fundraiser strategies annually.

Giving back to what others have given in you in terms of the spiritual and theological reform, mentoring, support in difficult times, relationships and inspiration is a virtue not a vice. Remember, someone invested in you and influenced you to move on. It is now your time to invest in the next generation at the FTC to influence a new paradigm of hope for the future.

Robert J. Wafula currently teaches Comparative Religions, Anthropology and Cultural Diversity at Columbus State College and Central Ohio Technical College, Ohio. He is also a member of the Board of Trustees of Malone University, and coordinator of Global Missions at Orange Friends Church, Ohio. Wafula is a graduate of Friends Theological College (FTC), St. Paul’s University, Earlham School of Religion (ESR) and Ohio University.

FUM Field Staff Updates – May/June 2013

Friends Theological College Update

By Ann Riggs

For quite a long time students have been able to study for pastoral ministry through their yearly meetings while living at home, but these programs have not awarded accreditation documents. Members of the Friends Theological College (FTC) Board of Governors have for some time been concerned that these local programs have been drawing students away from FTC and weakening the college’s educational endeavors. At the same time, they realize without these programs many students due to the expense of theological education or responsibilities at home would not have a chance to undertake training for ministry among Friends. As a result, board members have been meeting with Friends at Kitale Friends School of Theology, a program of Elgon East Yearly Meeting, and at Elgon Religious Society of Friends in Lugulu to plan possible solutions to these intersecting problems.

On 23 March 2013, the FTC Board considered two collaborative proposals outlining models that could possibly provide a solution.

The Lugulu model proposes that FTC personnel facilitate the certificate program of FTC at the yearly meeting offices of Elgon Religious Society of Friends in Lugulu. The model would be similar to the modular school-based program at FTC. Students would participate in a few intensive weeks of study three times a year. The yearly meeting would arrange for housing for those who do not live close enough to commute each day and for meals. A student following this model would earn a certificate from FTC in two years.

The Elgon East/Kitale model is a bit different. This school has a strong faculty and is currently conducting classes. This proposal affiliates the Elgon East program with FTC, using FTC curriculum and having examinations marked at the same time and with the same standards as the examinations at FTC in Kaimosi. This educational approach is in a trimester format, allowing students to reside at home and commute to the Elgon East campus. Participants in this program would be considered full-time students and earn their certificate in one year.

Both models seem to be promising ways to provide high quality theological education while keeping costs down and at the same time strengthening the relationships between FTC and the yearly meetings.

In each case, we hope that students who take the certificate, the lowest level of post-secondary school study in educational systems that draw on the British system of higher education, will be so excited by learning that they will continue on to take the Diploma in Theology or Bachelor’s in Theology at Kaimosi. We hope to later add the Advanced Certificate in Chaplaincy at both sites.

On a more personal note, I was recently blessed to participate in the dedication to the Lord of the infant son of an FTC staff member. Children in Kenya often are named after a person or event that marks the time of their birth. Jay Riggs is named after Jay Marshall, dean of Earlham School of Religion, and me. One can only be confident that Jay Riggs with such a distinctive name will grow up to be a scholar, an administrator or a missionary. Whatever plans the Lord has made for little Jay, I know they will be blessed ones.

Four Flat Tires Equal One Huge Blessing

By Eden Grace

Being in Kenya has allowed me to experience a great many miracles — some more unusual than others. For example, I was recently blessed by four flat tires!

I’d been noticing a slow leak in one of my rear tires for quite a few months and knew that both rear tires were overdue for replacement. The day before I was leaving to go on a trip, the tire that was slowly leaking was pancake-flat. My husband and son put on the spare, and I took the flat tire to the shop to be repaired. There, I found the tire was in such bad shape that I would have to buy a new one. I couldn’t wait to order the tire, as I needed to leave the next day. I drove away on the spare with the ruined tire bouncing around in the back.

I drove to Eldoret, left the vehicle at the airport, flew to Turkana, had a fabulous visit there, flew back to Eldoret, collected the truck and started to drive back to Kisumu. It was already dark when I left Eldoret, and I don’t normally like to drive after dark, but on that particular night I really wanted to get home to my family.

I had driven about two hours when the other rear tire burst. It was dark and raining, but I was in a market center where I knew people and I didn’t feel the least bit scared. I called the manager of a guest house we frequently use to see if he could come assist me. He said he was just ahead of me on the road and joined me in seconds. Of course, a crowd gathered (white lady with flat tire always attracts a crowd), so I had plenty of helpers. They pulled my second spare tire off the roof of the truck (where it had stayed unused for many years), struggled with the jack that didn’t seem to want to lift the truck, struggled with an elderly drunkard who wanted to “help” by standing between the flashlight and the real helpers, and finally got the spare on. They released the jack . . . and the spare hissed and crackled and lost about half its pressure, but then seemed to hold. At that moment, who should drive by but my colleague John Muhanji and Lloyd Stangeland (an Iowa Friend)! They were on their way to the very guest house whose manager I had called. It turned out Eloise Hockett (an Oregon Friend) was already there waiting for them. I had no idea they would be in this particular place that evening. Like angels, they appeared out of nowhere. We agreed that John would take my vehicle and look for a place to inflate the half-flat spare tire while I would take his vehicle and get Lloyd settled into the guest house. It made sense for me to also stay at the guest house, rather than try to make it home to Kisumu that night.

When John came back, he was driving on the rim. The spare tire had lost all its pressure, and he couldn’t find any service station open that late at night. We decided that nothing more could be done that evening, and I went to sleep, grateful for friends and community and the fact that I was never alone or afraid.

In the morning, we choose the tire that looked to be in the best condition and sent it off on the back of a motorcycle to be repaired. I got a call informing me that it couldn’t be repaired, but that they could put a tube in it as a temporary measure. I agreed to that plan, and soon the formerly-tubeless-now-tubed tire was on the car and I was ready to go. I expressed my great appreciation to the guest house staff, to John, Lloyd and Eloise, and set off. There were reports of violence in Kisumu, so I determined to take a back route over the hills to enter Kisumu from a more peaceful direction.

I got about 10 miles down the road when the tube burst. I pulled over and called my mechanic in Kisumu to ask him for a suggestion of what I should do, seeing as I had no more spares. He immediately dispatched some men with a tire to put on my truck as a temporary measure. As I waited the 45 minutes it took them to reach me, who should I see but Raymond who was driving the USFW Kakamega van full of Friends from my own home yearly meeting! I had absolutely no idea these folks were in Kenya. We had a lovely long chat, and I assured them I was fine and didn’t need any help, and they went on their way. A few moments later, John Muhanji passed me on the road. Seeing me with yet another flat tire, he just burst out laughing! What a comedy of errors! Yet everywhere I turned, my friends were popping out of the woodwork. God could not possibly have given me a stronger message that I am never alone, never without the help I need.

The men from the mechanic arrived, put their tire on my truck, and we set off in convoy (in case I got yet another flat). As we approached Kisumu, we were turned back due to rioting and had to take dirt roads around the city, but we made it safely to the mechanic’s shop. The only tires he could get on such short notice were a very high quality American brand. I paid a shocking amount for them, but the most valuable part of this whole story was not the worth-their-weight-in-gold new tires, but the total peace and lack of fear I felt through every moment. I was indeed blessed by four flat tires!

Quaker Life – March/April 2013

Unity

Christianity is meant to be lived, experienced and embodied with the One who walks with us, and one would expect, then, that Friends would readily walk together. Regrettably, I have also discovered over the years that occasionally Friends’ diverge with hurtful animosities. I wonder what would happen if we truly waited until unity transformed the body of Christ; what would happen if we considered that divergent paths need not be rival paths, but rather simply various routes to the same destination. What would it look like if we erected no theological barriers, no competing agendas and simply rejoiced in that of God in each of us? Jesus tells us through his prayer that it can be done.

As you read this issue of Quaker Life, you will find narratives of personal and corporate unity. Each author expresses their personal development as they too, find themselves to be one in Christ. It is the hope of this editor that the articles will begin thoughtful discussion and questions.

I am looking forward to your thoughts and conversation as we continue the dialogue begun in this issue on our website www.fum.org and on our Facebook page.

Enjoy!

Annie Glen – Communications Editor, Quaker Life

 

 

A Matter of Unity - By Colin Saxton

“Across FUM, local meetings/churches and yearly meetings are discussing [marriage equality], sometimes in healthy ways other times not. Since the yearly meeting is the organizational level in which Friends make statements about their particular Faith and Practice, it is not surprising that across the broad span of 31 yearly meetings there is a wide range of perspectives on
this (and other) topic.”

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Join the Conversation: The Reconfiguration of Indiana Yearly Meeting

“Amy Dennis and Michael Sherman speak of their experience as participants in the ongoing reconfiguration process in Indiana Yearly Meeting. Where is unity to be found in the midst of a yearly meeting that is breaking apart under the strain of long-held differences of faith and practice?

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Join the Conversation: Inclusion of Gay Christians

“Linda Daniel & Michael Levi address an ongoing source of tension within Friends United Meeting, and many other Christian fellowships throughout the world – our relationship with gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered Christians. How do we seek unity with one another when many of us have such clear – and different – senses of divine guidance about the acceptability of same-sex romantic relationships? Just as the Holy Spirit was present to lead the early Church in their most difficult discernment, how can we receive God’s ongoing guidance today?”

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“…That All Of Them May Be One.” – By Sylvia Graves

“Unity is about putting our spiritual, mental, physical, intellectual and emotional energy together in love to do the work of the church. George Fox had a vision for a people who, in seeking the will of Christ, we would be in unity. May God help us to patiently seek his Unity, forgive our selfish and untrusting motives, and empower his work through us all together.”

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Building Unity Over Time - By Steve Olshewsky

“The lifeblood of our Religious Society is the unity we foster with the next generation of Friends, the future of our faith. Sitting in certainty about the way things are does not nurture the new ideas that keep us moving in the direction we have always enjoyed walking together. When new leadings are expressed, remember that “Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You, too? I thought I was the only one’” (C.S. Lewis). Allowing room for new answers makes continuous growth possible and expands the reach of Christ in our world.”

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Spiritual Direction From a Friends Perspective - By Manny Garcia

“I believe now is the time for the whole church to engage in coming to the Well, to walk together in the presence of Christ and to respond to His call. Now is the time for the practice of spiritual direction to be the tool that brings all of us to unity. Together we journey, together we model and intuit signs of God’s work. Together we empower each other to experience and discern those signs. Together we endeavor to be spiritually directed.”

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Unity In Opportunity and Community - By Becky Memmelaar

“As a nation, we’ve stopped listening. We’ve stopped valuing differences; instead we value only those who emphatically agree with us. It seems to me that the runoff from lack of community falls on our churches and meetings. We let our politics shape our faith, rather than our faith shape our politics. Our divisions become integrated into our body of faith. Each cell is fighting for its own survival, rather than working together for good.”

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Other Articles In This Issue:

Staff Columns

Meanderings and Musings – Annie Glen
Out of My Mind – Colin Saxton
Spreading the Word – Micah Bales

FUM News

A Preliminary Report of the 40 Days of Prayer & Day of Discernment
FCPT & AGLI Work Together to Inform Kenyan Voters
Lugulu Friends Mission Celebrates 100 Years of Ministry
Highlights from Colin Saxton and Cliff Loesch’s Trip to Kenya

Field Staff Updates

Joyce Ajlouny Update
Ann Riggs Update
Sam and Becky Barber Update
Eden Grace Ministry Update
John Muhanji Update
A Brief Report by the National Education Secretary, Zadock Malesi

Other Content

The Cuban Quaker Institute for Peace – Stephen Angell
The Great Storm Is Not Over – Daphne Clement
Ask Tom: Where Do Clearness Committees Come From? – Tom Hamm
A Unified Front – Megan L. Anderson
Letters to the Editor – Philip Gulley & Noell Krughoff
Book Reviews – Steve Olshewsky
Passages: Quaker Obituaries

Unity in Opportunity and Community

By Becky Memmelaar

“For just as the body is one and has many members,
and all the members of the body, though many, are one body,
so it is with Christ.” — 1 Corinthians 12:12 (NRSV)

Although the Apostle Paul was writing directly to the church of Corinth, his words are clearly applicable to our modern day Quaker meetings and churches. If we were totally truthful, we would have also to admit that it is has been a very long time since the Religious Society of Friends considered itself unified in anything, let alone to be one in Christ.

Paul’s comparison of the church to a body and his illustration of how individual parts are necessary to work together speak to my condition. In August of 2011, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. Since then I’ve gone through multiple tests, scans and blood tests — each holding its own scare. These tests revealed I also had Lupus. This season of testing brought to light the need for the cells of my body to work together. Some of my immune system cells needed to attack the breast cancer, and others needed to stop attacking my joints. For health and wholeness it was imperative that my body mounted a unified assault on cancer, but not overcompensate and begin an assault on itself.

As individual members of our meetings, churches and denominations, we need to do the same. The church needs all the parts to stop attacking each other and to work together for good.

Truth be told, attack is what we normally do in disputes. When the way we think is best isn’t followed, we often question the motivation, the faith or intentions of others. We question the integrity of leadership. Barbara Brown Taylor, one of my favorite pastors and authors, writes, “As a general rule, I would say that human beings never behave more badly toward one another than when they believe they are protecting God.” Think of the wars that have been fought protecting God. Think of the divisions caused by people protecting their understanding of God.

Yet, if asked, most would express the desire to live in unity with others. Unity, by definition, means unbroken, but as humans who profess Christianity and as Quakers we come together from our own sense of brokenness. How can a group of flawed individuals come together and create wholeness?

Unity is like a jigsaw puzzle coming together. Each piece is shaped and colored uniquely. God knows our similarites and differences and carefully fits the pieces together to form a grand illustration of his grace. The problem is that we don’t get to see the “big picture” of the completed puzzle on a box top. Yet, the Apostle Paul reminds us that each person is an essential part of the body, each holding a part of the big picture. No one is more valuable or important than another.

It is easy to forget that each person is a puzzle piece of the big picture. We forget that sometimes those with questions prod us to new answers. God created us to be in dialogue with each other and with God. We forget that the fresh winds of the Spirit draw us to new pictures.

For example, even though slavery was permitted in the past, and some justified the practice by asserting it was condoned in scripture, today we know without a doubt that slavery was and is a blight on humanity. With contemporary issues we often cling to the past. We cling to what we were taught in our childhood or last week rather than ask and listen to God for answers. One of the most startling things I learned in seminary is that Church History is the study of splits in the church, and that reformations began when people began studying scripture for themselves.
George Fox is said to have known scripture verbatim. This may be a bit of a stretch, yet, if you’ve read his journal, you know that most of his sermons consist largely of scriptures parsed and woven together. Even though he read and valued scripture, he allowed the fresh winds of the Spirit to guide him. He disagreed with and broke with many of the traditions of his day, some of the most notable being, having women as ministers, “hireling” pastors and not swearing oaths.

In preparation for this article, I used a Bible search engine, www.bible.oremus.org. About halfway down the page is a bar where a word can be entered to begin a search. There were several citations for the word unity. However, as I carefully began to examine the passages, I discovered very few corresponded with the common understanding of unity. This search engine is designed to pick up the word even if it is a part of another word, and it took me a minute to realize that unity was a part of words such as: opport-unity and comm-unity.
Imagine that: unity is contained in the words, opportunity and community. I wonder how many opportunities are forfeited when we cannot come to any sense of unity. We know that we forfeit community as we whittle ourselves down into like parts.

Our recent election has illustrated the breakdown of community in the United States. The election process has created a mean-spiritedness among the political parties. Americans have become absolutely vitriolic in their opinions of political matters. Candidates can’t seem to voice an opinion without speaking negatively about their opponents. Guests on TV talk shows yell at each other, making no attempt to listen to the other side. Debates become about which side can most intimidate the other, or which side can project the best showmanship.

As a nation, we’ve stopped listening. We’ve stopped valuing differences; instead we value only those who emphatically agree with us. It seems to me that the runoff from lack of community falls on our churches and meetings. We let our politics shape our faith, rather than our faith shape our politics. Our divisions become integrated into our body of faith. Each cell is fighting for its own survival, rather than working together for good.

From my personal experience, when cells stop working together, two things happen: they become cancerous and they create an autoimmune disease, the purpose of which is to attack healthy parts.
How can we find our way back to unity from brokenness and division? If I knew that answer, I’d be a bestselling author appearing on TV talk shows. What I do know is that my greatest challenge in life is to take my faith outside of the box in which it was presented to me and examine it carefully. I was gifted with wonderful parents, Sunday school teachers, pastors and professors, all of whom taught me well. They inspired me to study, to think and to question. I have been inspired by very conservative friends/Friends and by very liberal friends/Friends. Agreeing hasn’t been the basis of our friendships, love has. We’ve found ways to work together. Love opened the door for opportunity and community. Sometimes, when we were at our best, we recognized that our motives were pure, just the lenses through which we viewed life differed. North Pacific Yearly Meeting wrote in its 1993 Faith and Practice:

However, [Quakerism] from its inception has offered both a critique of many accepted manifestations of Christianity and an empathy with people of faith beyond the bounds of Christianity. Some Friends have placed particular emphasis on the Gospel of Jesus Christ, while others have found more compelling a universal perspective emphasizing the Divine Light enlightening every person. One of the lessons of our own history as a religious movement is that an excessive reliance on one or the other of these perspectives, neglecting the essential connectedness between the two, has been needlessly divisive and has drawn us away from the vitality of the Quaker vision at its best.

What a statement of truth. When we ignore scripture or the leadings of the scripture, we cease to be Quakers and become something else. We begin to speak of spirituality and ignore our Christocentric roots. When we begin to speak of the authority of scripture alone, we ignore our history of waiting together and listening for the voice of God. Our opinions lead us to draw lines in the sand, and we begin to value our own understandings and devalue the understandings of others.

The Holy Spirit draws us into one body, one beautiful picture, created by God. The Spirit draws us to work together as cells of a healthy body work together for healing and wholeness. Our God continues to create and recreate this day and every day. If only we could allow the fresh winds of the Spirit to blow new life into us and to open us to the opportunities and communities that await.

I pray that God will breathe new life into you as an individual and into your church or your meeting. May God bring you new opportunities and communities as you seek the unity that only God can provide.

Becky Memmelaar has been pastor at First Friends Whittier in Whittier, California since January 2010. She completed her undergraduate work at Guilford College and her Master of Divinity at Wake Forest University School of Divinity. She and her husband are the parents of four children and grandparents of seven with the eighth due in April. She is the daughter of Max and Avis Rees and the granddaughter of Russell and Mary Rees.

1 Taylor, Barbara Brown. “Leaving Church: A Memoir of Faith.” http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/71455.Barbara_Brown_Taylor

Finding Unity Around Inclusion of Gay Christians

What process did your meeting use to find unity concerning a minute of inclusion?

Editor’s Note: These two essays are intended to be considered – and discussed! – together. Once you have had the opportunity to read both, we encourage you to share your comments here, on this page.

Linda DanielLinda Daniel, clerk of Muncie Monthly Meeting of Friends Memorial Meeting in Muncie, Indiana reflects:

“. . . One member expressed concern that we would definitely lose at least one college-age member by taking a formal position against homosexuality. Others suggested that with an anti-homosexual stance we would not be able to attract young seekers. It was noted that the issue of homosexuality is a non-issue in contemporary youth culture. A couple of high school-age sisters quoted Lady Gaga, ‘I was born this way.’ Others noted that Jesus was silent on the issue of homosexuality. He condemned divorce but not gay/lesbian relationships. Queries were asked. ‘What would Jesus do?’ Suddenly, that wristband question had new meaning when asked by an octogenarian who lost her homosexual son to AIDS several years ago. Further queries were asked. ‘Would Jesus use a homosexual male rather than a Samaritan in his parable of the good neighbor?’ Some were silent. Throughout our discernment meetings it became very clear that we have a diversity of thought in our monthly meeting. Also, because of the respect we demonstrated toward each other, it was also clear that we love each other. We are Christians and we are Quakers.”

“This is not to say that we do not have hurt feelings at times in our meeting. There are heated moments in committee meetings, and occasionally tense moments in our monthly business meetings. We don’t always resolve the hurt in spiritual or healthy ways. There are times when our meeting functions like a dysfunctional family. But the key word is family . . .”
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Michael LeviMichael Levi of Aldelphi Friends Meeting in Maryland shares:

“. . . In retrospect it seems obvious that the core of our witness must be two decades lived together in everyday community. I suppose that once a way opens, the clarity of revelation often appears self-evident. But the committee struggled for a long time. The adrenaline of hurt, anger, frustration and impatience often overwhelmed us. Personality conflicts and other tensions burst out at unexpected times and in unanticipated forms. It was patient prayer and expectant silence that carried us through. Our faith in the Spirit and our conviction that humbly waiting upon the Lord would be rewarded allowed us to gradually lay down the passions that were standing in our way and instead follow the still, small voice that was our guide.”

“This was the most profoundly Spirit-led committee work I have ever experienced. God’s unconditional love was tangibly present among us as our witness to an inclusive community gradually crystallized . . .”
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Unity and the Reconfiguration of Indiana Yearly Meeting

What process did your meeting use to find unity concerning what to do about the Indiana Yearly Meeting Reconfiguration recommendation?

Editor’s Note: These two essays are intended to be considered – and discussed! – together. Once you have had the opportunity to read both, we encourage you to share your comments here, on this page.

Amy DennisAmy Dennis, a member of Dewart Lake Community Friends Church, writes:

“. . . This process was bathed in prayer by Friends in and out of IYM. I wish I knew how many hours were spent with the Lord on this issue, praying for his will and listening to his leading. It isn’t always easy to follow where the Lord leads, but I am one who feels that God has led us through this process. The prayer for all the meetings involved in this process does not stop now. Now those who will stay in Indiana Yearly Meeting and those who are starting something new must diligently seek the different ways that God wants to use us for his glory. We find unity in this desire: to serve Him.”

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Michael ShermanMichael Sherman, pastor of Raysville Friends Meeting, responds:

“. . . For Raysville Monthly Meeting this process of reconfiguration has been one of spiritual growth. The position in which we now stand makes some uncomfortable. As we discussed positions, possibilities and perspectives, we became frustrated and were in agony. This process took away from much needed worship and fellowship. Raysville’s history of rejection and pain underscored our response.”

“Thus far, because neither side truly offers us a home where we can feel the Spirit of God will be the primary voice of a healthy, life-giving future, Raysville Monthly Meeting has not chosen to reconfigure to A or B. Our members know choosing to remain in Indiana Yearly Meeting will not destroy us, but it may be a painful reminder of our rejection and hurt. At this point, we look to the possibilities which lie ahead. ‘Right now all the possibilities for catastrophic failure stand intermingled with all the possibilities for beauty, grace and success,’ is a theme many of us hold . . .”

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